Children Separation - information for children
Going through a divorce, or separation, is one of the most stressful activities that you can possibly undertake. Speak to our Mediators today.
Going through a divorce, or separation, is one of the most stressful activities that you can possibly undertake. Speak to our Mediators today.
Now that you know that your parents are divorcing or separating you may have many different feelings. You may feel upset and angry and worried about the future. There may be confusion and you may feel that you are stuck in the middle of your parent’s arguments. You can feel fed up with the arguing. You may also feel that you are very different from all of your friends whose parents are staying together. These feelings are completely normal but it helps to talk to your parents, friends or Grandparents about these.
There may be many questions that might go through your mind when you think about what will happen in the future. You may be uncertain that you may have to change schools, or to move house.
You may ask if your Mum and Dad still care for you or what will happen if, and when, your Mum and Dad have a new partner. These are very common feelings that most children go through when their parents are divorcing or separating.
To reassure you about the future:-
As part of their divorce or separation, your Mum and Dad may consider mediation to be a suitable way to go about things. Mediation involves your Mum and Dad talking about things and making a sensible agreement to make sure that everything is in place for the future. As part of this process you can also talk with a mediator.
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Family’s are deeply affected by divorce or separation, especially when there are children in the family. Often these painful situations can be helped with the supportof a mediator who will hold a Mediation Information Assessment Meeting or MIAM. A MIAM can guide communication and set the tone for the goals of mediation.
When attending a court proceeding on the matter, the family will need to present an FM1 (Family Mediation 1 form) which confirms that a MIAM has been held.
As of April 2014, significant changes were made to the judicial system regarding separation and divorces, particularly where children were involved. These changes ensure that the welfare of the children is paramount, with minimal impact on the children and as little negativity as possible. One of the major changes was a requirement for a mediation session or MIAM to be attended before any court proceedings to do with financial or custody matters (hence the need for a FM1 to be produced).
If the split is acrimonious and both parties find it difficult to be in the same room, as would happen with face to face mediation, it is possible to ask for shuttle mediation.
Shuttle sessions happen when the two parties are seated in separate rooms either virtually or physically and the mediator shuttles between the two, discussing issues and offering solutions.
Shuttle mediation is often a good solution with distance between the parties allowing for rational and reasoned thinking.
MIAMS Bury Mediators can also help with will disputes: resolving issues between and coming to an acceptable compromise to the conflict that arises as a result of separation.